For this year’s summary, I’m going to take a break from the usual bullet point programming.

If you’re a regular visitor to this site, you’ve probably noticed the terribly low number of posts this year. My mind has been occupied with other things than writing, and the reason is that I’ve spent the majority of the year legally separated.

In early February, The Wife told me she wanted a divorce. It turned out that, for a very long time, I had not been the boyfriend, friend, lover and husband she needed. It is by far the biggest failure of my life. I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with her. In sickness and in health, to death do us apart, you know?

But here we are.

The Future is Now

I won’t go into the nitty-gritty details of why our marriage failed, because that serves no practical purpose - except maybe as a grave warning to the rest of you. There are a lot lessons here I take with me. But I shouldn’t dwell on the whys, ifs and buts of the past. There is only one way out of this mess, and that’s forward.

The previous year’s summary ended like this:

Here’s to a much less eventful and healthier 2021!

I couldn’t have been more wrong. What life throws at me in 2022 is hard to tell, but I hope it’s not any worse than what 2021 managed.

Now go give your partner a hug, and ask them how they truly, honestly feel about your relationship. It might be the nudge you need to address any unsaid issues your relationship might have, and save it before it’s too late.

Don’t be me.

Oh, and happy new year!

Here are summaries from previous years: 2020, 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016, 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010, 2009, 2008, 2007, 2006, 2005 and 2004.